On Wednesday, I spoke to the girls in my church's youth group about modesty and beauty. We actually had a really great time talking about everything from how your body and clothes relate and fight, how to sit in a miniskirt, and why you shouldn't date a boy who constantly compares you to other girls. This was a big win for me for two reasons. First, teenagers were actually interested in my talking adult face. Not really. They were curious about things like how to keep your bra straps from constantly falling off, ways to wear a strapless dress without being a cleavage display, and how to respond when someone makes fun of your outfit.
|My girls wouldn't wear any of this, for which I am thankful.|
For most people, modesty is a topic that arises at work. Sometimes people only bring it up when they don't like someone else's outfit. For some people it's a matter of faith, while others have personal modesty rules based around what they are comfortable with. Pop stars may be anything goes, but the average woman has her limits. But for some reason (maybe watching too much To Catch a Predator), when many adults start to talk about modesty and teenagers, they turn into frantic nuns covering girls with blankets and assuming the darkest intentions. (And there's not enough teaching boys how to be gentlemen instead of louses, if you really want my curmudgeoney opinion.) Why can't we encourage girls to explore who they are, have fun with clothes, and oh yeah, please keep your butt in your pants and your boobs in your shirt? That sounds healthier.
What is modest for you? Do you think modesty is different for teenagers than for adults?